Another installment of advice to the joblorn, where questions are sometimes real, sometimes not – but try to imagine the ones we can’t print.
I’ve been in my current job for a couple of years but would love to make a change because I’m just bored. In fact, I’ve already started interviewing. But my sister says that because I’m getting married in six months (a destination wedding to Bermuda!) I should stay put until after the honeymoon. When I asked her why, she said it’s because of the amount of time I’m spending on planning the wedding. My boss hasn’t said anything to me about it, so I really don’t think it’s a problem. I only have to take time away from the office a couple of times a week, plus coming in a little late to pick up samples and swatches, and of course I keep my phone calls for wedding vendors and bridesmaid planning to 3 or 4 each day. Nobody’s said a word about it to me at work, so do you think my sister is being overprotective? I only need two and a half weeks for the honeymoon, so I would plan to ask my new employer for advance vacation.
You’re the reason many employers run away from hiring a bride-to-be! It sounds like everyone at your workplace is checked out, because no one seems to notice that you’re doing a fraction of your job. You should get on your knees in gratitude that you have an employer that tolerates this. In case you decide to move your act to another stage before the wedding (Bermuda! Fabulous!), just be sure to let your new employer know all details so they can opt out of the festivities if they choose.