Dear Landa

Another installment of advice to the joblorn, where questions are sometimes real, sometimes not – but try to imagine the ones we can’t print.

Dear Landa,

I recently witnessed a co-worker getting a really nice raise and a better title—all because she told the powers-that-be about a job offer she had from a competing firm and they really wanted to keep her.

So, I figured I’d do the same thing. I asked for a raise and told them if I didn’t get it, I would leave for a competitor. They said, “hasta la vista baby.”  Of course, I didn’t have another offer, so I lost my job. I just thought since it worked for her…

Where did I go wrong??

Signed,

Unhappy and unemployed

 

Dear Unhappy,

In short, what were you thinking??? Do I really need to point out the obvious? Threats are rarely effective and empty threats are worse. First, you’re not telling the truth (i.e. a nice way to say you lied). Next, any threat is a very offensive move that no one likes to receive.  Third, you don’t really know the situation with the co-worker. Office gossip is rarely, if ever, reliable. So, to risk your job on such an idea is not a great idea.

A better idea might be to research negotiation skills and tactics and approach that discussion armed with some information. Also, it does help if you’re a productive and over-achieving employee. Someone who tries to take a shortcut is not really promotion material.

Also, just so you know…your co-worker who accepted your employer’s counter-offer probably won’t be in her job in another few months, anyway. Counter-offers have a terrible track record, as money doesn’t solve whatever underlying issues caused the dissatisfaction in the first place.

Sincerely,

Landa

 

One Response to Dear Landa

  1. c. d. travis

    Oh Landa, you were born smart – and have learned from years of observation!

    Those tales you publish sound far-fetched, but we’ve known stranger ones. Right?

    CDT

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